When I started a journey of self-discovery and now self-mastery, I had said to myself that I shall rid all the behaviours that no longer serves me.
It’s true what most people say, that once you embark on this journey, it can be messy.
Think about it this way, you thought you knew this person, which is yourself and you thought that all the while, you’ve got life figured out and you thought that you knew people too well. All of a sudden, you realise, you no longer knew the person you thought you were, the life you thought you had figured out and the people that you’ve known your entire life are not really what you thought they were.
“Life is an endless process of self-discovery” -James Gardner
Before you dismiss what I’ve shared as nonsensical, I invite you to open and explore what have you not discovered yet about yourself and your life.
Most people live their lives unconsciously and they unconsciously think that they are conscious. It is a blind spot. You won’t know a blind spot is there because you cannot see it. I’ve been there and I am still discovering my blindspots every day.
Now back to why you need to be gentle, patient and kind to yourself as you say yes to self-discovery and self-mastery?
It’s messy in a sense that you are rediscovering what you thought you knew. It’s like building a building and you thought you got all the rooms figured out and that the building has a strong foundation to go through earthquakes or typhoons and then you discovered otherwise. So you demolish the old building and the process of clearing the debris can be messy, uncomfortable and suffocating. It’s the same with my journey that I experienced and what most would experience as they decide that the person that they’ve come to be no longer served them in their lives because, in my case, I had went through divorce, I self-sabotaged my life with unhealthy habits such as late night supper, unhealthy social activities and more.
I said to myself, I had enough! That’s when I shed my behaviour through discovering my blind spots and working with a coach. When I discovered that my life was a pretence, I was so busy people pleasing and wanting to be right all the time, I broke down, I did not like what I saw and this is when I needed to be gentle, patient and kind to myself. When we see our mistakes, we might end up not liking ourselves and we may even end up hating ourselves. This is when we need to practice self-care and surround ourselves with the right people that could support us through this journey because at the end of the day you want to live an empowered life and it’s not a great idea to sink together with the old building of you and not rise from the ashes.
I deliberately surround myself with people who are interested to see me progress to my highest potential and they are people who are also in this journey too. We push ourselves towards self-mastery and never back down to be the old self that no longer serves us. We have the urgency to work through our own rubble and clearing out the debris of our past, to make way for a new person who’s meant to live their lives with a purpose.
So please be gentle with yourself each time you noticed or discovered something about yourself that you are not proud of. Have the courage to confront them and seek the right support.
If you would like to explore this journey, I would love to have a chat with you. Do book a discovery call with me to see how I can support you in your journey.