When you embark on a journey to self-mastery, you will realise how important it is to let go of blaming others, your past and your circumstances because most of the time, you do not have direct control over them. You will waste a lot of time and energy trying to change the inevitable.
Self-mastery is about looking at which areas of the self can you focus on. Is it your habits? Your thoughts? Your schedule? Your lifestyle? These are some of the areas that you can manage or higher chance of influencing.
In other words, you get to take back your power by focusing on what you can control and letting go of what you cannot control.
There are many benefits when you adopt this self-mastery practice and here are some of them.
You can think clearly
Naturally, when you free up your head space from thinking about solving the unsolvable, you will be able to make decisions that make the most difference to you.
You no longer feel stress
The brain cannot comprehend or solve matters from the past or fix people or circumstances because that is not how its created. When you try to solve the past or fix the past, the brain would send a signal of stress and this could lead to a mental illness as we keep thinking in circles and ruminating about the past.
You become bearable for others
This may sound like victim blaming, but it’s not and here is why. When we blame others, more fingers would point back at us and no one likes to be around someone who keeps blaming others. Before I blame the other person, I usually make it a practice of looking at where the fault lies within me because that’s the area where I can control or rectify. For example, in one of the recent incidents when I blamed my husband for misunderstanding what I said, I quickly asked feedback from my sons who noticed our communication, my son said, that my tone of voice sounded harsh. If I went full steam ahead with the blame game, everyone around me would begin noticing many reasons to blame me back in return.
This approach requires a degree of accountability, self-awareness and self-mastery.
In short, no one likes to be blamed and no one likes to be around others who keep finding fault in life unless of course at times misery loves company or you just notice how birds with the same feathers would flock together.
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