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Are you creating fantasies or are you taking productive actions toward your goals?

Kamilah MS

It is ok to dream and it is OK to dream big. We look around us and we see success stories of individuals whose results we can’t possibly imagine for ourselves.

We sometimes find ourselves saying,

“if only I could be as smart as Elon Musk”.

“If only I could be as rich as Jeff Bezos.”

“If only I am as popular as Kim Kardashian.”

Do you get the idea?

Sometimes people spend too much time in their lives building castles in their minds as they follow the individuals they idolise and they fail to learn what is underneath that success?

We sometimes ask what do they have that we don’t have instead of asking who do I need to be and what do I need to do to achieve results in my life?

Some of us fail to see that each of us is meant to achieve unique results in life otherwise there would be millions of Jeff Bezos and Elon Musks!

Let’s now take a reality check to see if we spend too much time building castles in our minds and not laying the brick in reality:

1- Dreamers spend too much time idolising others and trying to mimic them along the way.

It is ok to set a benchmark for ourselves and follow the success formula of another person as long as we do not lose ourselves in the process. Trying to be more like another person does not mean that we are the exact carbon copy of the person. If we think that we could be a carbon copy, then we are building castles in our heads.

 

2- Dreamers want quick results. 

Dreamers feel impatient and are desperately wanting to have what the other person have without understanding what it takes to have that dream home, a dream family, inner peace, etc. They are interested in a magic pill or potion to get results when in reality, there is work to be done. It may take a certain set of skills, knowledge, investments and time to get the results you want.

 

3- Dreamers have a victim mindset. 

Dreamers dedicate their lives to blaming people and situations for not getting what they want. When you have a victim mindset, you are not creating a space for results to show up and it is an act of self-sabotage. Successful people don’t spend time being a victim. They understand that to achieve real results, they need to have a growth mindset to be open to keep on learning and expanding themselves through challenging their limiting beliefs and confronting their fears and barriers.

 

Conclusion

With this awareness, you will begin to shift your focus and your mind towards productive thoughts and actions that would give you a shot at achieving your goals and expressing your authentic self-expression in the process. It is easy to spot wannabes and dreamers and sometimes we may need a coach to mirror that for us and bring about self-awareness. Book a discovery call to decide if I am the coach for you.

 

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